#they literally had to take this out because it was so gay
yes you fuck, everything has always had the potential to be a trigger. do you not understand what a trigger is? things that remind people of their abuse or a traumatic event they went through are triggers. everything, and i mean absolutely everything, has the potential to be a trigger.
someone can be triggered by maple syrup or diet pepsi because their abuser made them pancakes the morning after they mercilessly beat them or because their abuser always drank diet pepsi.
don’t you dare complain about someone having a trigger you deem “stupid” (nice ableism!) or “weird”, especially especially especially if you do not have ptsd.
if you refuse to tag someones triggers when they ask because you believe that could ever, ever be anyone’s trigger bc it doesn’t seem relevant to any type of traumatic experience you could imagine, then you are literal human garbage and you need to educate yourself and go sit in a garbage can where you belong.
I’m just reblogging this because I feel the need to point out:
I know at least two people for whom referring to any human, anywhere, ever, as “garbage” is a trigger.
And I know at least a few dozen people who have actual triggers and who nonetheless feel more comfortable and safer around people who refuse to tag those triggers because they’re too rare, than they do around anyone who would ever do that.
That said, I only tag for one or two really common triggers, and even those I can’t remember reliably, but there’s no way I’ll tag for absolutely everything, because every post would be more tags than content, and if everything is a trigger then nothing is a trigger.
being raged at by overemotional people for not going along with their social rules is one of my triggers.
no, really. i’m not saying that for a joke. that was the excuse my abusers and bullies used for what they did to me; i deserved it because i was garbage, an unperson, because i “didn’t make an effort to fit in”. i was being autistic at them just to be a jerk and it was totally my fault, and they were abusing me for my own good to make me comply with the social order.
OP you ableist dickwad, check your NT privs and quit pretending to be an Authority.
now here’s the sensible, polite position to take: if someone asks you to tag something and you don’t want to, be polite about refusing. if you ask someone to tag something and they won’t, don’t throw a tantrum, just unfollow. no one can tag everything. i have 3000+ followers, and a lot of them are disabled, from abusive backgrounds, etc.
if i tagged all my OWN triggers it’d be a chore. tagging all THEIR triggers, i’d spend more time tagging than blogging. so i try to use meta-category tags — keep argumentative stuff in one tag, depressing/upsetting stuff in another — and tag for a few of the most common phobias, and that’s it. my part in a reasonable social contract is fulfilled as long as i don’t promise anything i don’t intend to do, and don’t flip out if people unfollow me because they need tags i’m not willing to do.
if you decide that it’s acceptable to call people literal human garbage and to scream and swear at them and tell them to throw themselves away, you have lost the social justice game, and you need a fucking time out.
…Much as I hate to admit it, cerberusia may have been right, and conditioning my hair more often may at least provide a temporary fix for it being very unhappy hair at the moment.
I am often right: ‘tis a curse, but I must bear it nobly. And you must condition your hair, else it will be very unhappy indeed. I know this because we have the same hair and I know that if I wish to spend anything under 10 minutes getting the tangles out (it has even, on particularly lucky occasions, taken less than 5!) when I wake up or leave the shower, I will have to use conditioner for dry, frizzy hair.
You want Aussie’s Miracle Moist conditioner, and you want to apply it to your hair from the ears down every time you get your hair wet, not just when you shampoo (which will probably only be required every other day). It will make your life wrt hair so much more pleasant.
…I was going to comment with confusion on the hair-brushing times, since it normally takes approximately two minutes for me to brush my hair, and then I remembered that the last time I attempted to brush my hair in your presence, you tsked at me and forcibly removed my hairbrush. >_>
Thank you for the recommendations - hair has been especially dry, fine & tangly of late, a situation of which I highly disapprove. (To the extent that I washed and conditioned it last night and it is already feeling dry again. @_@)
And then brushed it myself, properly! I maintain that you were not brushing your hair, but attacking it. You have lovely hair (thick fox-red curls), and it pains me to see you fight with it like an alien plant that has attached itself to your head.
Given that you hair is currently very sad, you may wish to try a hair masque: I use a Frizz-Ease one once a week and it does wonders. whitmerule pointed out in her rebog that LUSH do excellent hair products, which I can confirm, but they’re a bit pricey, so you might try stuff from Boots first.
Condition every day in the shower (creme conditioner, not feeble leave-in spray) and shampoo every other day, use a brush with a mixture of spines and bristles, and soon your hair will be healthy and shiny. I speak from experience :)